4 Core Concepts of Texting
Before I actually GIVE you the “The Magic Texts”, let me just really quickly cover couple core concepts that are important to understand before you start using this “Texting thing” with the man in your life.
Itʼs important you “get” this stuff because if you donʼt you can actually HURT your relationship more than they help it.
BIG CONCEPT NUMBER 1:
Your Manʼs Cell Phone is the closest thing t “Telepathy” that you can get.
I talk about this in the video you (hopefully) watched before grabbing this report, but the fact of the matter is most men are absolutely ADDICTED to their cell phones. (If youʼve ever tried to have a serious conversation at the dinner table while youʼre man is surfing the web on his phone, you already know this.)
Rather than trying to force him to pay attention to you and “put the damn phone down,” texting lets you do a little bit of “relationship judo” and get him to do what you REALLY want him to do without ever coming across as nagging or unreasonable at all.
BIG CONCEPT NUMBER 2:
Guys Respond to VISUAL stimuli. Guys are NOT as emotionally complex as women and are a lot more blunt in their communication
This is REALLY important. As we go forward (and Iʼm hoping this is the start of a really long friendship between you and I) Iʼm going to push you out of your comfort zone with what I tell you to send to your man.
One of the most common conversations I have with my female friends and clients is about how SIMPLE guys actually are. Women are such hyper-communicators and are (typically) so in tune with their emotions that they think guys have to be that way too.
But, honestly, guys are simple. We have simple needs and, when it comes to emotions and romance, we have pretty simple wants and desires too. If you try to talk to your man like you talk to another woman heʼs going to clam up like the hoover dam.
Iʼll go into a lot more depth on this subject later, but for now just remember two things:
- Donʼt read too deeply into what your man says.
- If you want your guy to give you the romance and attention you crave, youʼve got to speak his language first. For our purposes, that means using VISUAL language in our texts.
BIG CONCEPT NUMBER 3:
A Manʼs Greatest Pleasure Comes From The Ability To Give A Woman Pleasure and to be Appreciated for it
This oneʼs a little complicated, but the short version is that men get incredible amounts of pleasure and self esteem out of their ability to make WOMEN feel good and to be appreciated for it. Very little of a guyʼs pleasure actually comes from physical sensation or (generally) even from emotional connection.
BIG CONCEPT NUMBER 4:
Romantically, Your Man Needs To Feel Like Heʼs “Winning” You And Feel Like Heʼs In Charge
And our final big concept is that, romantically your man really does need to feel like heʼs in charge. Not to get too much into evolutionary psychology here, but men are designed to be hunters.
What Iʼm going to teach you is how to subtly (and lovingly) manipulate your man so he feels like youʼre prey worth going after, so he canʼt stop thinking about you during the day and so he counts down the moments until he gets to hold you in his arms again.
(Weʼll start the process with three magic texts, but weʼll continue it in the email training and in some additional resources Iʼm going to point you towards that youʼre going to like a LOT.)
Talk soon,
Ryan Amiore
Chief Editor of Lady-Zone.Blog
The Three Magic Texts Revealed
OK, letʼs dive in.
To start out Iʼve got to make one BIG assumption. And thatʼs that youʼre man HAS a cell phone and KNOWS HOW to use it to send text messages.
These days thatʼs probably a pretty safe assumption, but every once in a while I get an email from a woman saying her husband has NO IDEA how to text and isnʼt sure what to do.
If youʼre guy doesnʼt “get” the texting thing yet, you should skip ahead to the next section where I reveal a “sneaky” method one of my customers came up with to “bridge the texting gap” with his wife, who had never texted before in her life.
OK, here we go . . .
Step 1: The “Curiosity And Attention” Text . . .
The first thing we need to do is make sure to grab your manʼs attention, and the best way to do that isnʼt with a ridiculous shout . . . but with an irresistible whisper. Weʼre going to bait our hook with curiosity so he almost feels like he HAS TO respond to find out what youʼre talking about.
Remember, our goal is really to create this “Alternate world” for you and the man you love.
A world where you can feel close to each other and build towards greater intimacy (andpassion) even while youʼre stuck at work, going about your day, taking care of the kidsor doing anything else.
And a world where he can feel powerful, confident and appreciated without any of the distractions (and ego killers) of the day.
So hereʼs the first thing you should send to your guy . . .
“I canʼt stop thinking about . . .”
Pretty simple, huh?
But itʼs got a POWERFUL pull on a manʼs mind!
Heʼs going to want to know what the heck it is that youʼre actually thinking about. In fact the ellipse (“…”) at the end of the text is kind of like a magnet. Itʼll pull him towards you like a tractor beam no matter how distracted by other things he might be.
Thereʼs really only one response you could get from your man in that case.
And thatʼs for him to say . . .
“About what?”
Or something to that same effect.
I recommend you donʼt send anything else until you do get a response.
If you DONʼT get a response, donʼt freak out.
It could be that your guy is just confused (“She usually just sends me texts about picking up milk or criticizing me. What the heck is this?”). If he doesnʼt respond youʼll want to let it slide for a while and try again later . . .
. . .or skip ahead to the next text. (there is a lot more covered about what to do with a non-responsive texter in the main “Text The Romance Back” manual. More on that later.)
Step 2: The “Establish His Power” Text
OK, now that weʼve gotten your manʼs attention, itʼs time to do a little bit of ego stroking and let him know that heʼs appreciated.
In the “for guys texting their wives” version of this report, I tell guys really focus on a womanʼs self esteem . . . to make her feel beautiful, wanted, etc.
As a woman texting a guy, our goal is to make him feel powerful, desired, strong and appreciated. Remember, our whole goal here is really to inspire your man to WANT to take action, to WANT to give you the attention you crave and to “wake up” again to what a beautiful, wonderful woman he has in his life.
Remember, weʼre building on our last text.
So originally you said . . .
“I canʼt stop thinking about . . .”
And he responded with something like . . .
“About what?”
Again, thereʼs not much else he COULD HAVE responded with, which is why I like curiosity texts like that so much. Theyʼre a way for you to CONTROL the conversation and take charge without having to have a million different responses ready.
Once he responds itʼs time for you to interrupt all the boring thoughts that are running through his head (“Whereʼs that damn TPS report? I have to pick up the kids at soccer. Whatʼs on TV tonight?”)
So, once he replies you say . . .
“How safe I feel when Iʼm around you . . .”
OR
“The flutter that goes through me when we kiss.”
OR
“How amazing it makes me feel when you look at me.”
Notice how in all of these weʼre giving him POWER. Youʼre talking about how something relatively innocuous that he does causes a wonderful effect in you that you canʼt resist.
If youʼre feeling advanced, here are a few other options you can try.
The key is to be as SPECIFIC as possible . . .
“The way you smell. Thereʼs something about it that just . . . Hee. I get shivers just thinking about it.”
OR
“How happy I am that Iʼm yours.”
Got it?
Nothing complicated here. Weʼre really just establishing his power and strength and showing appreciation for him as a man.
It sounds really simple, but youʼll be amazed at how just these simple actions really can do wonders for your man. By making him feel good about himself and your relationship youʼll find him suddenly motivated to reciprocate and give you the romance and attention you deserve.
That brings us to . . .
Step 3: “What Youʼve Earned”
OK, so so far weʼve used curiosity to get his attention and have used what I call a “Subtle Power” text to give him a compliment and establish his strength and power.
Remember, men need to feel like theyʼre in charge.
Weʼre sneakily taking advantage of that with our choice of language.
After your second text, he may respond in one of a couple of different ways. Itʼs totally possible that heʼll suddenly flood you with texts of his own as he takes the bait and takes charge of the situation.
If he does, itʼs important that you give him POSITIVE reinforcement (even if he doesnʼt say EXACTLY what you want him to.)
If he doesnʼt grab the wheel, itʼs time to bring out the big guns.
In our third text weʼre going to use the SINGLE MOST POWERFUL WORD IN THE WORLD and the principal of “anticipation” to put a huge smile on his face and have him plotting romantic thoughts for the rest of the day.
Weʼre going to use the word imagine to engage his mind on a primal level and have him literally craving you wherever he is.
Got it?
Good.
So our little text conversation so far is something like . . .
YOU: “I canʼt stop thinking about . . . “
HIM: “About what?”
YOU: “About how good I feel when Iʼm around you. =-)”
(The little smiley is optional.)
HIM: “Really?”
YOU: “Iʼm sitting here and all I can do is imagine itʼs going to feel when I see you tonight.”
The Word IMAGINE is like the nuclear bomb of texting.
Itʼs actually really hard for the human brain to read the word “imagine” without IMMEDIATELY imagining what it is youʼre talking about.
(Try not to imagine a pink elephant. =-))
And even though youʼre talking about what YOU are going to feel (because guys have a much harder time talking about feelings in general), it causes HIM to imagine what itʼs going to feel like when he sees you as well.
Of course you can mix it up if you want to.
I recommend you follow this up with something like . . .
“Counting down the moments until I get to see you again.”
And thatʼs really The 3 Magic Texts In a nut shell.
Step 1: Curiosity
Step 2: Establish that heʼs powerful/attractive and makes you feel good.
Step 3: Use an “Imagine” text to have him thinking about the future and how great itʼs going to be when he sees you.
Itʼs completely possible that heʼs going to want to keep texting back and forth with you at this point. If he does you can try “Winging it” or you can use some of the more advanced techniques Iʼll tell you about soon. (Oo, curiosity.)
But the really important part is that stay congruent when you get home that night. Walk up to him. Look him in the eye. Say “did you get my text?” and see what happens. =-)
You may have awakened a monster 🙂
Sexy Texts Cheat Sheet:
Here is how you can get his attention, love and desire, by using Easy Done for You Texts Messages… without the fear of rejection!
==> https://lady-zone.blog/fbg-Sexy-Texting-Cheet-Sheets/
Here’s Just a LITTLE of what you’ll discover…
- Quickies (starters and happy endings) Texts
- "First this, then that" Texts
- "Would you rather" Texts
- "20 Sexy Questions" Texts
- "Sexy Flashbacks" Texts
- "The sensual adventure" Texts
- Pure Sexting Messages
- Examples of how to put it all together
…and soooo much more.
==> https://lady-zone.blog/fbg-Sexy-Texting-Cheet-Sheets/
Talk soon,
Stoyan
P.S. No fluff and NO B.S. Just the raw information you need to get your man’s attention and pull him back in persuing romantic mode…